New Paradigms for Extraordinary Living

 

by Ty Azeltine

 

This frees us to live from that inner place of being true to ourselves rather than from learned patterns that keep us living in mediocrity.

 

In order for people to have truly extraordinary lives, they need to make truly extraordinary changes. This is because most people live their lives as the product of their learned and conditioned behaviors. Without even realizing it, we make choices not from what would really work for us but from what we have learned we "should" or "can't" do.

 

Of course you already know this! But perhaps you are wondering about the most efficient ways to bring us back to a place in which we are consistently able to be true to ourselves. Is that even possible? And how about being able to distinguish between our automatic learned decision-making process and making choices and decisions from an inner place of stillness and joy?

The key is to first understand the real nature of what drives our decisions and actions, to understand the real mechanisms that cause choice (or the apparent lack of it). Then, we need techniques that can truly dismantle those default learned behaviors that we all get so unconsciously competent at!

 

A new field of medicine is emerging that provides penetrating insights into the nature of human conditioning, how this conditioning limits our decisions and actions, and—most importantly—how and what can be done to eliminate the binding, limiting, influence that our conditioning imposes on us without our even being aware of it.

 

Relief from old patterns is obtained because new, easy-to-use techniques resolve the emotional response of the memory patterns in the neural connections that are at the root of limiting beliefs, conditioned response, destructive behavior and dis-ease.  Recovery from such symptoms of disease is achieved because the techniques provide simple and effective ways to respond to future events. In addition, this frees us to live from that inner place of being true to ourselves rather from our default learned patterns that usually keep us choosing and living in mediocrity.

This powerful set of insights and techniques is transforming people's lives. It is also transforming different professions that help people resolve problems, from health practitioners and life coaches to therapists and more. Practitioners and coaches who have learned this body of work are abandoning other techniques that are less effective in favor of this new methodology. As one of them said to me recently, "My clients deserve the best that I can give them. Why should I take months or longer to accomplish the results that I can give them immediately?  And now I can cut to the core of their inner conflict in minutes and give them breakthroughs that provide them with even more than what they thought they wanted!"

 

There are several techniques that can easily be learned and applied to give you success in all areas of life.  Offered here is a simple but powerful method that you can use the next time you feel fear, pain, sadness, anger, jealous, bitter, resentment, grief or other emotions.

 

First, just take a few minutes and allow yourself to identify with the energy patterns in your body that contain any discomfort. If you have no discomfort, you can usually create some by simply allowing yourself to feel an uncomfortable emotion.  This is the same type of energy that creates dis-ease. It can be felt by simply placing your attention on any discomfort in your body. Some examples:

 

1. Inability to express angry words may result in throat feelings.

2. Lack of joy often creates tightness or discomfort in the chest.

3. Not trusting intuition often leads to distress in the solar plexus.

4. Fear of change often results with irritation in the gut.

5. Grief may be felt in the lungs and chest.

 

Don’t allow the fear of being overwhelmed stop you. Fear of being overwhelmed by these emotions is perhaps the grandest and most profound illusion that our mind creates.  This illusion is created from early childhood experiences of being overwhelmed by intense feelings. Prior to emotional development, those feelings were avoided because we lacked the capacity to process the feelings.  As adults we have seven times more capacity (as evidenced by our abundance of spindle cells) to process those feelings. However, our default mechanisms are activated from the memories of infancy! 

 

As Joseph LeDoux’s research program at the Center for Neural Science at New York University has demonstrated, any time a fearful memory is brought to mind, the neural connections between the fearful image and the emotional response may be increased or decreased. The memory becomes labile (changeable) when reactivated, and thus susceptible to being neurologically consolidated in a new way. The emotional power will either be reinforced (by avoidance) or dissipated by the use of techniques that process the memory of the emotion. 

 

More simply stated, emotional maturity is achieved by deactivating the fearful images that are involved in the experiences of fear and pain.  This becomes possible as the fearful images present themselves. 

 

For this exercise to be effective, you must do the opposite of what you normally do: you must go beyond the fear of being overwhelmed to overcome the illusion.  When we continue to avoid feelings, our emotions remain as default programs and thus persist in creating unconscious decisions that stand in the way of having what we truly want for our life.  You will soon see with little effort that the fear of overwhelm is just a memory from the past that carries no weight.

 

So, allow yourself to feel the energy of the emotion in the discomfort of the body.  There is no need to give it more energy—just feel what is there.  As you resolve parts of it, you may go deeper into the feeling to resolve the deeper aspects without the fear of overwhelm.  Most often, the discomfort associated with these patterns of energy can be identified in one or more of four primary locations in the body.  Stop reading now and close your eyes for a few moments and see if you can get a sense of one or more of these energies in your body.

 

This energy may manifest as tightness in the chest, restricted breathing, a lump in the throat, discomfort or pain in the solar plexus or gut. As you hold your attention on this energy for a few moments, you will notice that the intensity begins to decrease. Remain present with the energy of the emotion wherever you feel it.  Sometimes it will move to another location. Stay with it until it is completely gone.  

 

The benefits of spending a few moments every day to resolve these programs of unresolved emotional pain are limitless.  As you begin the process, new doors of awareness and opportunity will become available in your life.  There will also be days when you may think there is no end to the daily work. Let me assure you that there are a finite number of these energies to be resolved!  Six months to two years of diligence with this type of work has been compared to the level of spiritual growth one might expect from 30 years of meditation.

 

Ty Azeltine has developed a Holistic Recovery Program that teaches many techniques to complement and expedite the healing process. For class registration or one-on-one sessions, call 561-9922