Learning
to be Comfortable
Eveline
Wu
The
good news is this: the discomfort you feel now doesn’t have
to be permanent.
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How are you
sitting as you read this magazine? Where do feel your shoulders, your
legs, your hands? Are you comfortable?
Most likely,
with these few questions, you’ve already spontaneously adjusted the
position of your body, or paid attention to something in yourself that
you weren’t paying attention to before. In addition, you’ve
experienced a fast and simple way to use your nervous system to change
and alter your behavior.
Your nervous
system—composed of your brain, as well as the nerves that sense and
create pain, tension, movement, and your spacial sense—constantly
takes in new information to shape your behavior. Your nervous system
both makes habits and breaks them down to learn new ones.
Forming habits
is a healthy part of learning and an important way you make your life
easier. Habits help you to brush your teeth, put on your seatbelt when
you get in a car, and adapt to any of the complicated routines you have
in life.
What
does this have to do with your aching back, your ongoing shoulder
strain, or how you sleep at night?
Not only does
your nervous system direct your unique way of walking down the street,
it also directs how you sit in a chair, how you rest on your side or
back in bed, and the signals that tense and relax your back muscles.
In childhood,
your brain actively formed new connections about movement; back then,
one of your primary jobs was to learn to crawl, sit, and walk
comfortably. When you were uncomfortable, you recovered rapidly because
your habits were less ingrained.
In adulthood,
after years of stress, injuries that wear and tear on your joints, or
repetitive work, you become “habituated” to discomfort. Moving and
carrying your body in uncomfortable ways is habitual, ingrained, and
familiar.
The good news is
this: the discomfort you feel now doesn’t have to be permanent. Recent
research has demonstrated the plasticity of the nervous system, which
means the ability of your brain to form new connections throughout life,
no matter what your condition.
As a Feldenkrais
practitioner, I have witnessed client after client discover with
surprise that the stiffness and tension in their bodies that they
thought were just the way they are, able to change.
I’ve seen
people’s posture transform: hips that have been stiff for years become
more flexible, coordination and balance improves. Even things that
seemed permanent due to injury, like an arm that hadn’t been to go
above the shoulder comfortably, can improve. At times, surgery or
painkillers become unnecessary. With these changes, muscles relax, and
tension and pain release.
How
can you employ the tools of learning to change the way you move and
feel?
The first thing
you can do is learn to pay
attention. Sense how you’re sitting again right now. What parts of
you touch the surface of a chair or the floor? Are you able to breathe?
What can you do right now to be more comfortable? Then, if you’re
inclined, you might start to notice what types of situations and
movements relate to your discomfort.
Second, learn to trust your feelings. If someone tells you to sit up, what
do you do? Do you erect your back because that’s “good posture?”
Is that really more comfortable?
I’ve
discovered that, as adults, we have heard so many ideas about how our
bodies should be that we often forget to feel if they are true for
ourselves. So, if someone asks me, “How high of a pillow should I use
at night?” I reply that there is no standard formula. Instead, I teach
you to discover what height works for you as you are right now.
Women: Do you
hold your knees together ladylike and suck in your belly, resulting in
extra strain in your back and hips? Men: Do you pull back your shoulders
to stand up tall, so much that you actually strain your neck? Whatever
you do, feel if it really is comfortable. By giving yourself a chance to
trust and act on what you feel, you begin the process of changing
habits.
Third, learn that being comfortable should not require a lot of effort, and
certainly not strain. This may sound obvious, but notice the next
time you’re uncomfortable what you do. Do you try to push through it?
Can you gently move in ways that are not painful, rather than push
through the pain?
Fourth, take time once in a while to go slowly, and try doing things in new,
unfamiliar ways. In my work, I apply these principles when teaching
floor movements, and also in hands-on work. Gently guiding yourself to
move in new ways, rather than pushing or straining, may sound obvious,
yet when actually applied, produces profound results.

Eveline Wu
is a certified Feldenkrais practitioner whose specialty is helping
adults and children with chronic pain, tension, and neurological
conditions to improve mobility and comfort in their bodies. Call
783-1009.