The Dilemma
In
working with people to solve various life problems and traumas, it
soon becomes obvious that many of us don’t know what real
happiness and success look like.
We often think we must be happy all the time—especially if we
have all the latest ‘stuff’—but round and round the wheel we
run, inevitably going nowhere. Meanwhile,
credit card debt increases and we are miserable, tired of the drama.
In spite of obvious material success, we are empty and dissatisfied,
sick and feeling unloved because our relationships don’t work.
To
make matters worse, the media bombards us with constant offers of
success and pleasure. “You need more” is the key subliminal
message behind all advertising. Thus we live in a world addicted to
feeling good and finding instant success.
Wherever we look, there it is: excitement, entertainment, sex,
food, sensational products, drugs, and success schemes—all
persistently offered to help us ‘succeed’ so we can be happy.
Over
the past 50 years, as technology has grown to reach more people, so
has the global marketplace. Its power has become strong enough to
induce a social hypnosis. Planted in every mind is the idea that we
need something better—right now! Even our religions promise us
heaven if we join them. If we are having a bad day, there is some pill
to cheer us up or some product to fix our problems. If our mates
don’t make us happy, or aren’t sexy enough, we trade them in for a
new model.
If
we stay asleep and continue to take in this ‘You must succeed and
feel good all the time’ illusion, it will simply take more and more
stimulation to make us happy. The
good news, however, is that we can
wake up from these mass-induced hypnotic fantasies and begin to see
where true happiness lies.
The
Wave
The
truth is that we are not
designed to feel good all the time. We live on an emotional wave that goes from hope to pain and back again. Our emotional
systems are very different. Some are intensely emotional and some are
more easy going.
When
you push the emotional wave
too high, it plunges down lower
on the other side. Then, it takes an even bigger push to get it up
again. That is our addicted society—and the tidal-wave such
addiction creates in our lives.
What
we don’t always take into account is that Life has a mind of its
own. Just think of all the many natural forces and cycles that we are
a part of. We can’t stop those forces and cycles that flow through
us anymore than we can keep our emotional wave up high all the time..
In fact, we make ourselves sick and miserable when we try. The more we
go against the natural energy flows (including emotions) that run
through our bodies and help to shape our individual lives, the more
resistance, sickness and unhappiness we create—which, in turn,
requires more stimulation to feel good.
Everyone
wants to be successful, but what is true success? And what kind of
success leads to true happiness?
Living
Our Geometry
True
happiness comes from being true to one’s self. It comes from living
one’s personal mythology and surrendering to the path designed for
you by Life itself. We really have no choice. The more we try to blaze
a path that we are not designed to take, the more resistance we
create, the harder life gets. And in this way we create our own
suffering: by resisting life and thinking negatively.
Human
Design Technology calls our unique path our ‘geometry,’ and all of
our important dates with destiny are along this line. Each
individual’s geometry leads to his or her destiny and karma. When we
find our niche in life, we move along our geometry with little
resistance. We meet the right opportunities to express our uniqueness
and the right people for our needs.
Everyone
is born with skills, talents and natural abilities that are required
to do our unique job in life. The beauty is that we all fit into the
whole. We all make a contribution to life—that grand Movie at Large
that we all help to produce. At the same time, we each create our own
little movie on the microcosmic level. This is how 600 billion movies
are all playing within the one Movie at Large!
In
addition to living our geometry, true happiness involves positive
thinking. This means mentally framing our life in a positive way.
Science has proven that positive thoughts create health while negative
thoughts create disease and depression. Although we all make many
mistakes in life, we need to see that mistakes are learning devices.
Thus, our mental frame becomes positive when we shift from beating
ourselves up in making a mistake to looking for the lessons behind the
mistake. By learning in this way, we can celebrate even the apparent
‘mistakes’ in our life. Positive framing is about appreciating our
life, giving ourselves a break when needed, and looking to see what
positives could happen instead of what negatives we might fear will
happen.
True
Success
True
success like true happiness accumulates through all the little
victories that happened along the way. It is formed from the people,
situations and learning experiences that shape our individual movie.
That’s what makes it an interesting movie!
When
we accept our selves as emotional beings and allow which ever emotions
are there to flow, our lives become rich and the pain of life makes us
deeper, wiser and better people.
We
can’t change our nature, our character or our path in life.
Rather, true success is to be found in the way we walk our
path. As Shakespeare said, “All the world is a stage.” But that
doesn’t mean we get to choose any part we want. Indeed, we waste
tremendous energy and create endless drama and suffering when we try
to move against our own flow. It
is much easier to work on self-acceptance and accepting people and
life as they are.
To
sum it up: The best fulfillment in life comes from being true to
one’s self and living life our own way—in spite of all the
pressure to be something we are not.
Jackie
Kosednar is a hypnotherapist, energy medicine practitioner and
human design analyst.
She is also the publisher of Alaska Wellness Magazine and
author of “One Miracle After Another”. Contact: 272-2469 or jackie@alaskawellness.com.
